So here goes...

Everyone has the answers. It's that simple. You have a problem, you tell anyone, and they've got THE SOLUTION for you. As obnoxious as I know it is, I'm the same way. Somehow, I manage to juggle not knowing a damn thing with having every answer in the book. What I find the most interesting is how if you dig into anyone's advice deeply enough, and I mean down to the nitty-gritty of HOW exactly to do what they suggest you do, you end up with exactly what you thought you would - NOTHING. You get handed a whole pile of bull like, "You just know," or "you just do" That's how you know that no one knows sh*t - because no one has the real answer to any question you ask them.

For me, my biggest problem is my brain. Yeah, it's kind of a big problem. As you all know and I've discussed at length - I think. I think. I think, and then I think some more. And no matter what, about 80% of my thoughts are on the matters of the heart. There's not a damn thing I can do about it. What advices have I received in the past & present? The following:

• Don't take it seriously.
• Just enjoy life, don't analyze it.
• Think about something else.
• Keep yourself distracted/busy.
• Get over it. (A CLASSIC) 
•  Move on.
• You shouldn't feel that way.
• Just relax and have fun.
• Stop thinking so much. (MY ALL TIME FAVORITE)
  

There is no doubt that this is all great advice. All of it. I fully agree, but find me one person who can actually tell you HOW to do ANY of it. How does one stop thinking? Seriously. Now, this advice can actually work for certain moments.

It's only when you are trying to think of something do you discover how much time there is in a day to think. You can watch a movie, go dancing, run an errand, and make a phone call. Sure, this stuff may buy SOME time, but really not that much. You can unintentionally squeeze in about a million thoughts before, after, and during every task you have in a day. Then there's the time you're falling asleep. Reading a book, watching TV? It's amazing how slippery my mind is that it can drift away from any distraction and fall right back to MATTERS OF THE HEART. And I'm not unique. Not by a long shot.

Anyway, the point, advice doesn't help. Sometimes getting advice only helps just because it's nice when it's clear someone wants you to feel better. And as long as it's given with that intention and NOT because that person thinks they know it all, then it feels good. But what's so much better than advice is just hearing that what you're going through is hard, and that IT'S OKAY to KNOW IT IS. It's nice to hear that what you're feeling, what you're thinking it's not weird, and that you're not a loser for feeling the way you do. Every once in awhile, I beat myself up. A thought will cross my mind, and then I'll hate myself for thinking it. And I won't tell anyone I thought it because I'll think they'll give me a hard time for it. So, I just try to take the good advice and stop thinking, and stop dwelling, and becoming healthier than I am, but I just wish I knew how.

Now, on an unrelated note, I will soon be blogging about my successful baby shower last Friday and my weekend in training along with hubby with Belly to Baby pre-natal course very soon. Stay tuned!

My sincerest appreciation goes out to those who have the patient to read my writings. I LOVE insightful and introspective comments and feedbacks of fascinating perceptions.