Friday, April 11, 2008 - Seduction Tips For The Average Guy

Most guys are afraid to show any type of romantic overtones to women - a subtle caress, or an off-color comment has become too much of a "risk."  But to the average woman dying for romance, the most romantic gestures can be just as ineffective if not done right.

Most men live and breath to find the kind of woman who fulfills all their romantic fantasies, because this is the type of woman men will actively pursue for romantic reasons.

The art of seduction is more than a talent, or something some men are just more proficient at than others.

Real seduction is all about understanding the woman and discovering what makes her tick.  Learning a woman's desires, needs, and passions can give you an in-road into escalating things romantically.

Who are you, really? Are you confident about yourself, your needs and desires? Do you think you are attractive? Most men have a lot less confidence in themselves than they allow others to realize.

In order to step up your game, you'll have to practice on enhancing your confidence.  Seduction happens from the inside out.  Women will always find a confident man more attractive than a man who has little to no confidence in himself.

Confidence allows you to find the courage to meet and interact with any woman you want.  The average guy, who's riddled with insecurities, will chicken out and let fear affect their success with women.  But by developing your confidence, you'll have an edge when it comes to getting the girl you desire.

Don't forget, a brave man will not live forever, but a cautious one will not live at all!

Determine what about you others could find attractive.  It doesn't have to be your looks, it could be something about your personality.

Learning how to utilize your best features (even if you think you have none) is essential to successful seductions.  Whether it be your great attitude, full head of hair, or winning smile - whatever it is, you need to learn to work with what you got and capitalize on it!

Think about what women have previously liked about you, or commented positively on; not all women find the same features attractive, so you really need to focus on more than one. Choose something about your face to start with, this is the portal for all of your emotions and what she sees there can ultimately mean the difference between success and failure.

Once you've determined what assets you have to work with, it's time to put them to use.  Take every advantage you can get to communicate your interest and desire and get a woman's attraction to you going.  Smile at her, make strong eye contact, run your hands through your hair, make a fun joke - do whatever you have to do to bring your best, most seductive, qualities to the forefront.

And while you're doing this, don't forget about the romance you're trying to create!  Men tend to ignore romantic gestures, but women place a lot of importance on them.

What all women do appreciate though is the odd gesture that shows you care or find her attractive. This doesn't need to be an extravagant gift; it could be something as simple. Wrack your brains for something original, that you think she'd really like - a line of poetry snuck into her handbag, a small book or CD/DVD on a topic you've both talked about together so she remembers you, just something small but memorable.

When seducing a woman, you have to be willing to take a chance at failing.  Often times, being brave enough to flirt or say an off-color joke will give you the edge in making you stand out and heat up the interaction.

Seduction is about creating an atmosphere where words, gestures, and emotion all combine to create an inevitable outcome.

But don't allow yourself to just "let things happen."  Proper seduction takes a lot of planning and premeditation to get right.  That's not to say you can rush a seduction, but you can make it so that things play out to your advantage.

Last, but not least, take action to close the deal.  If you've done your job right, you'll know when its time to get physical.  Don't be afraid to make your move and complete the seduction.

To learn more about the Art Of Seduction, be sure to check out Joseph Matthew's website where you can get free tactics and insights on seduction techniques.