Tuesday, August 12, 2008 - SEEING PREDATORS FOR WHAT THEY ARE
by redscarlet
Give yourself a chance to see through them. It helps to put two and two together to look at the reality and not the facade.
We are entitled to go through stages of our pain while trying to cope and recover. This process gets delayed due to re-victimization. A good example would be the reactions and rage from narcissistic predators, emotional rapists and spiritual vampires can cause a survivor to experience trauma again only this time in another form depending on the route of attack the predator takes to hurt their victim.
It is still necessary to tell the truth about the person who continues to hurt others and lie, cheat and steal lives from people. In fact, it is your duty. This is not revenge but an important step in healing, receiving validation and making sure the predator and his future victims get help, if possible.
No matter how hard the victimizer tries to cover up, hide, threaten, accuse, etc.... all the lashing out in the world isn't going to make them right or their lies into truth. They can manipulate all the people in their path, but the truth will always be the truth and sooner or later their lies will catch up to them. Even when a narcissistic predator believes his own lies, he can't escape the consequences somewhere down the line.
Finding out the truth is devastating, but it is necessary. How they react to you finding out confirms that truth even more. It makes the a deal breaker.
If you can't get just how unfeeling and inhuman they are, or realize just how detached they are from any remorse or empathy check out the seduction science techniques mentioned in previous posts. It is sickening to evaluate the coercive & exploitative content of communication between these absolute volatile creatures of predation.
This is what they are underneath. They fake the 'friendship' they sucked you into when you needed a friend the most. Predators hunt the wounded, and like any predator they preyed on you at your most vulnerable.
Here's a symbolic illustration for those who may not quite see it clearly yet...
On a back porch in the evenings right before Fall, at the same time every night, swarms of mesquites start to circle around while trying to stay hidden at the same time. Before you know it you 've been bit more than once without realizing it and you now feel the sting. They are out to feed and they know how to get away with it.
It drives and feeds these remorseless, emotional predators more to believe they can do whatever they want. Expose their game and they will try to destroy you without a care in the world. Whether you have children or not. Whether you are innocent or even bedridden. They can only see themselves and what they want. No one else counts. Their narcissistic rage will kick in and attack anyone or anything that gets in their way.
They will even hide behind their own children for sympathy with an "upstanding family man" facade to those who might start seeing through them. Their children will act as though they hung the moon because they thirst for their time. This is because they only get crumbs of the predator parent's attention anyway.
It is basically like finding out you were conned by a programmed robot or eaten by a killing machine like a shark, and nothing else.
Before you know it - they are off for their next meal... their next fix.
Sunday, April 20, 2008 - I didn't even have the time ....
Posted by Anonymous
He came to me, all sorry for himself, needing "his fix", when we had the time of our lives, my trying to overcome the loss of both parents - only 10 months apart - imeediately after, my husband dignosed with a serious cancer situation. But because he was always someone importnat to me, so when he was in need, I made time for him. BUT - I didn't really have it ... I just cared enough, to make it. Then - he really 'came to me' ... and I didn't see that coming !!! He got caught visiting with me by another family memeber of his, and so blamed me to cover for himself, and has been blaming / implicating ?ME? and my involvement as the wrong-doing, ever since. It got me so angry, and I told him so ... via emails and texts ... that he called the police to protect HIM, instead of taking it like the evil man that he is - coming to ME, asking for support, in the first place!!!! Unbelievable. Not only was he patholigically sick (as this 'need of his' went on, so convincingly - for 6 months prior), but he is the biggest coward - not owning up to his own actions - causing me hardships with MY family and all the friendships that now have their 'thoughts' on it, over the situation. My reputation is destroyed, all because - he "NEEDED" me ... and so stupidly, I believed him and allowed it ... which makes me feel even more stupid.
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(does not need to have all of these)
1. Contemptuous of those who seek to understand them
2. Does not perceive that anything is wrong with them
3. Authoritarian
4. Secretive
5. Paranoid
6. Only rarely in difficulty with the law, but seeks out situations where their tyrannical behavior will be tolerated, condoned, or admired
7. Conventional appearance/ facade
8. Goal of enslavement of their victim(s)
9. Exercises despotic control over every aspect of the victim's life
10. Has an emotional need to justify their crimes and therefore needs their victim's affirmation (respect, gratitude and love)
11. Ultimate goal is the creation of a willing victim
12. Incapable of real human attachment to another
13. Unable to feel remorse or guilt
14. Extreme narcissism and grandiose
15. May state readily that their goal is to rule the world
(The above traits are based on the psychopathy checklists of H. Cleckley and R. Hare.)
